Infertility is the inability to conceive or carry a pregnancy to full term.  Infertility is a medical problem that is treated with medical intervention.  There are, however, psychological effects associated with infertility that increase the stress a couple feels when trying to conceive.  A couple may be unsure about whether to have children or rather when to do so.  Faced with potential medical interventions, a couple may also disagree about whether or not to use these methods.  In this way, infertility can have very real psychological effects on a relationship.

Common Struggles

A couple that fails to conceive on several occasions faces pressure and stress from the situation.  They may feel as though time is running out and they need to have a baby soon, leading to heightened stress levels, which have negative effects on the relationship.  This may lead to increased arguing about the situation.  Blame is a common theme.  It’s tempting to place blame on the infertile partner, but this adds to feelings of shame and inadequacy.

How to Handle Infertility

  • Don’t blame yourself or your partner
  • Talk with your doctors and educate yourself
  • Talk openly with your partner
  • Consider all options
  • Don’t let shame prevent you from reaching out for help


Anxiety and depression are usually the first feelings upon learning about potential infertility.  Doctors will help patients to consider all the options, but psychotherapy and couples therapy can be instrumental in helping a couple to work together to reach a decision about their many options.  A therapist will promote open communication and ensure that both partners are able to remain relaxed through the decision.

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Open Path’s therapists offer beneficial services that encourage insight, self-reflection, and healthy coping mechanisms. Our therapists furnish a supportive environment, providing healthy outlooks and understanding.

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