Relationships are hard, and all couples fight. But some couples fight all the time, and these fights hurt. In fact, these fights leave both you and your partner feeling exhausted, frustrated, guilty, and ashamed. These fights can feel so bad that sometimes you wonder if your relationship will last.
You know that something needs to change, but you’re not sure where to start or how to fix things. If you and your partner are struggling with conflict in your relationship, I know how frustrating and difficult that can be. I also know how helpless that feels. You don’t want to get divorced, but you don’t know how much longer you can do this.
Some problems are simply too big to solve on your own, and you’re in the right place. Working with a qualified, caring therapist can help you and your partner stop fighting and fight your calm. I understand how hard it is – and how heartbreaking it feels – to feel like you’re losing the person you love. If the problems in your relationship seem overwhelming, I can help. Don’t wait until your relationship feels broken to make it better.
How Can Couples Counseling Help?
No matter what you’re facing as a couple, couples counseling can help. Whether you’re struggling with anger, frustration, and resentment, dealing with difficult memories and moments from the past, or simply struggling to communicate and connect, couples counseling can help strengthen your relationship, improve your connection, and rebuild your bond.
Couples counseling can help if . . .
. . . You can’t stop fighting. Whether it’s about money, chores, time, or parenting, you and your partner can’t seem to agree on anything. And, it’s tearing your relationship apart. If you find yourself thinking, “I can’t do this anymore,” it’s time to ask for help.
. . . You and your partner get “stuck” in the same argument over and over again. All couples argue, but when you find yourself having the same fight over and over again, something needs to change. Couples counseling can address the core issues at the heart of this conflict and teach you how to communicate and compromise.
. . . You can’t stop thinking about the past. Trust is the foundation of any strong relationship, and when trust is challenged or lost, moving forward is hard. If you’re having difficulty with trust and commitment because of a past hurts and betrayals, couples counseling can help you repair and rebuild trust and commitment.
. . . You feel like you and your partner are drifting apart. Once upon a time, you felt closer to your partner than almost anyone else in your world. Now, you’re not sure if you even know each other anymore. If you want to rekindle your connection, couples counseling can help.
. . . You crave intimacy with your partner. Maybe you feel like your relationship has lost its spark. Or you’re struggling to feel warmth and affection with your partner. Perhaps you feel like your partner is more of a roommate than a lover. Couples counseling can help you nurture your connection and rebuild neglected intimacy.
. . . You or your partner are struggling with issues outside of your relationship, and you’re not sure how to support each other. When one or both partners are struggling with challenges outside of your relationship, there’s a good chance that your relationship will struggle as well. Whether you or your partner are struggling with stress and anxiety, depression, grief, addiction, or chronic illness, it can take a toll on your relationship. Learn how to support each other and maintain your bond in couples counseling.
. . . You just want to strengthen your relationship. Your relationship doesn’t need to be in crisis before you reach out for support. In fact, the best time to strengthen your relationships is when your bond as a couple is still strong. Couples therapy can strengthen even the best of connections.
How does Couples Counseling Work?
Couples counseling helps struggling couples repair and rebuild their relationships through learning, problem solving, and insight. Couples counseling is more than just “talking it out” or rehashing old fights. It’s about learning new skills, improving communication, and deepening intimacy.
In couples counseling, you might learn . . .
. . . how to fight fair
. . . how to compromise
. . . how to listen and how to be heard
. . . how to solve problems as a team
. . . how to reconnect and repair after a fight
. . . how to talk about your feelings
. . . how to nurture your connection
. . . how to rebuild intimacy, trust, and commitment
Couples counseling has helped my clients stop fighting and find their calm, and it can help you too.
What’s it like Working with You?
All couples counselors are different. Here’s a little about what you can expect when you work with me. . .
First, we’ll explore what’s happening in your relationship. During our first few sessions, we’ll talk about the challenges, problems, and conflicts you’re facing as a couple. These are the things that make you feel angry, frustrated, and stuck. We’ll also explore your strengths, dreams, and values. This will help us set goals for our work together and create a strong foundation to improve the things that matter most in your marriage.
Then, we’ll figure out what’s working in your relationship and what’s not. We’ll identify where you’re getting stuck and what needs to change. Together, we’ll work on learning new skills and tools to help you manage conflict and improve communication, as well as help you develop a deeper understanding of yourself and your partner. We’ll also spend time building upon your strengths as a couple and nurturing your bond.
Next, we’ll work together to troubleshoot the things that are getting in the way of change. That might mean challenging unhelpful ways of thinking, processing old memories and moments from the past, developing new coping strategies, or learning new ways to talk about your feelings and your needs with the person you love. Together, you and your partner will learn how to approach these challenges in your marriage as a team.
Finally, we’ll create a plan to make these positive changes permanent. We’ll work on tools and tricks to help you and your partner build on your strengths as a couple, nurture your relationship and bond, and deepen your connection. In this final phase of our work together, you and your partner will focus on cultivating the relationship you’ve always dreamed of and creating the life you really want – together.
Take The Next Step and Schedule Your Free Consultation
If you and your partner struggle with conflict, couples counseling can help. If you’re ready to take the next step to heal your marriage and repair your relationship, reach out now. Schedule your free consultation online or by emailing me at help@therapyevergreen.com. I’m here for you.
