Did you know that there is no mystery to what it takes to create the relationship you’ve been dreaming of? Research shows us that there are specific qualities and actions that the happiest, most successful couples do on a consistent basis. My coaching system focuses on helping my clients achieve these results in the shortest amount of time possible, based on having a structured process that takes the guesswork out of improving your relationship, so you can optimize your time, energy and money while achieving results.
I work with couples who are committed to achieving these three essential features of a high quality, high performing romantic relationship. Ask yourself these questions:
- Quality results. Do my partner and I nurture a friendship that is based on safety and mutual respect? Do we create an encouraging environment for each other that allows each of us to thrive?
- Engagement and commitment. Do we create a powerful sense of “team” that inspires each of us to seek the other’s best interests? Do we have a clear sense of purpose that drives our motivation to work together toward a common goal?
- Growth and development. Does the relationship environment we create foster growth in each of us? Are we both comfortable expressing ourselves authentically in a way that helps both of us to flourish and grow?
Based on the work of Dr. Jacqueline Peters (author of High Performance Relationships), couples who work with me begin with comprehensive assessments to identify exactly where their greatest strengths and areas for growth exist.
We look at: Emotional Intelligence (Self-awareness and Self-regulation), Safety and Attachment Styles as well as how you score on each of the Five Building Blocks of High Performance Relationships.
Then, we move forward building areas of growth into strengths until you are able to maintain your growth as a couple without further coaching. At the end of our work, you will have built solid foundations for ongoing growth in any of the areas essential to a High Performance Romantic Relationship.
- Safety – “A climate in which people feel free to express relevant thoughts and feelings without fear of being penalized.
- Purpose – A clear vision of where you are going as a couple that builds motivation and commitment to what you see in your future as individuals and together as a team of two.
- Structure – An unmistakable clarity about who does what in your relationship (roles and responsibilities) and how to use resources toward your common goals as a couple.
- Camaraderie – An unusual sense of friendship, commitment, humor and play that build your bond every day and as you move toward your future together.
- Repair – All relationships encounter conflict and sometimes, that conflict leads to disruption of your sense of connection. Using the tools for repair with the strategies of the REPAIR framework, you will become experts at staying connected with your partner in spite of conflict.
This process involves no guessing and no wondering where you’re going, a roadmap is provided to you and you will learn to follow it, with guidance, until you are able to use the tools without support.
Reach out today to start building your High Performance Romantic Relationship today.
Is your relationship challenged because of a history of trauma? If you struggled with trauma during childhood, your relationship skills are likely to match the situation you suffered and survived in. This means that patterns associated with your trauma experiences may be leading when it comes to who you are in relationship. This can be a huge factor in why your needs don’t get met.
To heal after childhood trauma, it’s essential that you have a system that focuses on helping you heal the effects of childhood trauma in the shortest amount of time possible, based on having a structured process that takes the guesswork out of healing, so you can optimize your time, energy and money while achieving results.
In 25 years of doing therapy and being active in healing my own childhood trauma, I’ve developed systems that support my students to free themselves from the impact of their experiences – which can last a lifetime if an active healing process isn’t pursued.
To support trauma survivors, I have an established community that includes video lessons for each step in the healing process. I’m also in that community twice per week, hosting Zoom group conversations where we dive deeper into the healing process and I answer questions of members. The community has been useful to support healing for people whether or not they are already established with a therapist who specializes in trauma.
As a human first, I understand that to be an effective, empowering therapist, I must be awake and active in my own healing system to be able to guide you to your healing system. I have learned how to do this for myself and I’d love to help you on your journey toward self-discovery, healing and more fulfilling relationships.
*On a personal note: I am a survivor who has healed my childhood trauma and now spend my time enjoying life, cuddling my Mini Australian Shepherd, spending time with my loving partner and creating YouTube and TikTok videos. My images aren’t professional photos – that’s on purpose. I’m a real human. Nice to meet you! :)
I’m Tamara Ridge, LMFT – Founder of The Center for Healthy Relationships & The Center for Healing Trauma/Trauma Free Nation. I will teach you how to heal yourself. We will practice these principles together. You will learn to apply them for yourself and in relationship with others. Contact me to enhance your well-being and your relationships. My services are offered online via video telehealth exclusively.
