The daily anxiety you experience leaves you overwhelmed and exhausted. You constantly re-hash conversations or question the choices you make. You change how you act or what you say in order best communicate with each different person or to keep people from being upset with you. Maybe you frequent say “Sorry!” to others over little things. Or go into a thought whirl-wind comparing all the possible ways you could handle something as you attempt to determine the “best” or “right” response.
You don’t want to push anyone away. Always afraid you’ll make a mistake, you are the responsible, helpful, empathic friend. Meanwhile, none of the many roles you fill or labels given to you quite fit you. They also do not satisfy you.
But you worry about “getting it right” in your various roles as a friend, child of your parents, romantic partner, caregiver, parent, employee, etc. The labels you’ve been given might include: perfectionist, black sheep, free thinker, gifted, rebel, idealist, unconventional, people-pleaser, entrepreneur, push-over, chameleon, millennial, queer, over-thinker, empath, codependent, etc. You could go on with all the ways you have been told that you are “different” or “wrong”.
Yet, even considering not being able to meet everyone’s expectations makes you feel selfish. The thought of not being perfect causes you panic. You don’t want to disappoint anyone.
It’s normal to show different parts of yourself with your friends, family, coworkers, etc., but those masks are starting to feel fake. You crave to be seen and accepted as you are, the same way you strive to accept others.
You desire to be a kind person, loving partner, gentle parent, and genuine friend while having your own identity. You’d like to feel confident, capable of handling the stress peacefully, and able to trust yourself and your own decisions. Most importantly, you are ready to examine your struggles to become the person you envision yourself being in the future.
Revealing or uncovering who you are can feel so difficult. I can help you find your starting point, calm your fears, and tackle those conversations, because I’ve been there. I’ve walked through the fears and challenged the risk in order to discover the rewards of true self-expression. You can too.
Call 510.633.3356 to schedule a free 20 minute phone consult and ensure that we are the right fit for each other before you schedule your first appointment.
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